Can you be right where you are?
Not trying to grow your list or get more likes and followers.
Not trying to make anything happen, or make someone hear, understand, respect or regard you.
Not trying to make your kids do something other than what they're doing or listen to you when they're not.
Not trying to be thinner than you are now and not trying to figure out what's coming next.
Read MoreThe grass will be greener when...
You have enough money to buy beyond what you need - and then the grass will be even greener when you can buy what you really want.
You can do only what you want, not what you have to.
You're at the body weight that you've always wanted to be.
You can take that trip of a lifetime. More than once.
You can quit your day-job and hang out at the beach. Forever.
Your house, taxes, paperwork and closets are in-order.
You have the place, the space and the landscape that you want.
Your business is running smoothly, you've built your list, and you've got more followers than bees are on-to honey.
You get your degree, start your dream business, finish that project, the people in your life stop annoying you and your dog stops barking at things you can't see or hear.
Your kid cleans up his room, you find the guy you want to marry, or the gal loves you back the way you love her.
Read MoreSo you've got yourself elbow-deep-in-some-sort-of-poop-soup and you're wondering how you got here, why you got here and how much it stinks to be here.
Yep...we've all been there at one-time or many in our lives, haven't we?
Maybe you've gone and stirred-up some trouble in your relationship.
Maybe you've gone and stirred-up some trouble in your finances.
Or maybe you've gone and stirred-up some trouble with your health, career, your kids, or your next door neighbor.
It doesn't matter what kind of trouble you've mixed up and it matters less how or why you made it.
If you were making a soup - you'd add some sort of broth (you know, the gluten-free/soy-free/dairy-free/toxin-free kind), veggies, spices, meat, more gluten-dairy-soy-free stuff and maybe a little bit of salt (of the sea variety, of course) - and voila - you'd have soup. Maybe you'd give a taste-test along the way, or maybe you'd let it simmer awhile before finding out what all of those ingredients produced.
Let's say in this example that you didn't like the soup you made (because we're talking "trouble" here and most of you don't like the troubles you create).
Read MoreThere are things that people expect you to be.
There are things you think people expect you to be.
There are things you expect you to be.
You might think you should be doing better.
You might think that all of those people are doing way better than you - way smarter, way funnier, way-more-handsome, and way more having-their-shit-together.
You compare yourself to the posts on the FacePlace (FB) and wonder...
...Well, you wonder whatever you wonder.
You want to look good to others. You want to make an impression. You want them to think you're smart. You want to be impressive, liked, loved, acknowledged and gushed-over.
You want to say the most intelligent and wisest thing ever said. You want to be worthy of their praises, highlights, high reels, and high fives.
You want to stand out but maybe not-so-much that the bar is too high for you to live up to it.
Read MoreSometimes, it feels like you've got no control over how you feel. It's like something outside of you has gotten a hold of your brain, your thoughts and your attention, thereby giving you the impression that how you feel has nothing to do with you and everything to do with whatever's gotten a grip on your brain. You wish you could be happy, but you've got all kinds of things to be unhappy about that you can't (but wish you could) control.
If you want to move yourself closer to happy and feel more in control of your emotions, here are a few things you can do:
1) Let How You Feel Be
Don't try to fix it or change it. Don't try to analyze it or solve it. Don't try to make it different. Don't try to justify, defend or explain it. Doing so will only intensify how you're feeling and have you feeling like your thoughts are more out of your control. Let it be for awhile and acknowledge that you don't have to feel like this forever; that this feeling doesn't have to last endlessly. You're feeling the way you are because of your perspective about the thing that has you upset. While the condition may be unchangeable at the moment, your perspective is. But still...let it be for now. Ignoring how you feel in the sense of covering-up how you feel is not helpful, but distracting yourself from what seems to have you by the tail and making you feel unhappy, is. If you weren't focused on the thing that's got you feeling something other-than happy, you'd be happy. Think about that.
Read MoreSometimes (often), our teachers are not the older and wiser ones - they're the little ones eating lollipops and wearing velcro shoes.
1) Be flexible.
We're not talking about yoga here.
2) Take the road less traveled.
You never know what you might find.
3) Do what you want anyway.
You know you really want to.
4) Don't take anyone's opinion of you seriously.
It's all bullsh*t anyway.
5) Do it for the fun of it.
'Cuz that's why you're here. Why would you ever do it for any other reason?
Read MoreThere's this thing that we do...its called the need for perfection.
We refrain from putting up a website until we have all the copy, the photos and the impeccable message we want to convey, just so.
We refrain from trying something new or different because we might stink at it.
We don't write because our writing may not be as good as it can be. Or, it may actually suck.
We reach for the outcomes we want and want them now; if they don't come really-fast-soon, we assume we're doing something wrong.
We look at our bank account, our status, our likes, our accomplishments, our accolades, and our placement demeaning our sense of worth and value as we draw conclusions about our current position.
We look at our partner or the wanta-be-potential partner and search for faults and evidence of imperfection - needing him or her to be only-a-little, or quite-a-lot different - right now.
We judge, categorize, pigeon-hole, criticize, and evaluate based on some illusion of perfection.
Read MoreThere's something you want.
You don't have it yet. That's probably why you still want it.
It's taking soooo long.
"Where is it, where is it, where is it?", you ask.
"It's missing", you say. "I don't know where it is. I don't know how to find it. I don' t know how to get it. I don't know how to make it happen."
Have you ever gone looking for something that was missing (let's say in this case, potatoes) that you couldn't find and soon after you gave up looking for the missing potatoes, there they were?
Have you ever wanted something that you didn't have and once you decided to think of something else instead of the thing you didn't have - the thing you wanted that you formerly didn't have - is now yours?
Read MorePassion is ballyhooed everywhere. If you open a book, Twitter, FB, Instragram or even your grandma's favorite magazine publication - someone is likely talking about passion and hashtagging it (and I probably will too).
There are 7 + 3 steps to finding your passion and 11 more to follow it, sometimes with a concealed or blatant message of, "A life lived without passion is not worth living" (or something of that sort).
So...what about passion?
Do *you* have it?
Do you feel it?
Do you have fleeting glimpses of it and get a sense of what it is when you search Google images?
Do you want it?
Do you think you should have it?
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