That thing you think about seems compelling.

The issue, the problem, the thing that's bothering you.  

You've been told you need to think about IT.  

Can you let whatever-IT-is BE for now?  Can you stop - just for awhile - trying to figure-shit-out, how-when-or-where it got started, fix it, change it, end it?

It seems counter-intuitive to let it go - to *not* think about it.  It's there and you don't want it, which you think means you need to eradicate it from your life - obliterate the son-of-a-bitch.

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You want a way to control what's going on around you so that it doesn't feel so random and unpredictable. 

You want...predictability. 

You want consistency from the one you're with. 

You want to know what's going to happen in a future that hasn't happened yet. 

You want...certainty. 

Not in a boring kind-of-way that means you have to plan every last-thing right down to the details of what you're going to eat for lunch next Tuesday at 11:53:42 am, ET.  Nawwww...not in that way.  ;)

But you do want to be prepared.  You want to know.  You want a sense of control over your life.  

Maybe you feel it's all out-of-control.

Maybe controlling as many and as much as you can would make you feel better.  

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Several years ago while in a Western Gear store in Texas, I heard a girl over-yonder say, "This cowboy hat makes me look fat." 

I thought, "Well, there you have it.  If you think it, it shall be it."  That girl was far, far, far from anything you would call fat, heavy or over-weight.

But she believed it. 

How you perceive your world is everything.

How you feel about how you're perceiving is everything.

What you believe forms your perceptions.  

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